Dad when you look in the mirror what do you see? Do you see kindness, a gentleman, someone who’s trustworthy, fair, a person who always does what’s right regardless of what the other person does? Or do you see someone who is hurt, out for revenge, full of hostility, hatred and someone who’s going to get even?
Separation and divorce can tear people apart inside and turn you into someone you don’t even recognize. often you feel taken advantage of, used, abused, and angry. If these feelings are not dealt with they can fester and get out of control. The traits that you exhibit are usually magnified in the eyes of your children. Children are watching and there is a very good chance that they will want to grow up to be just like you. There’s also a possibility that you’re terrifying them. Are you the role model you want to be?
When parents stop focusing on themselves and their hurts and start paying attention to their children they see things in a different light. If, for a moment, you could put yourself in your children’s mind and see what he/she sees you would probably act differently. Inadvertently what you do to your co-parent you do to your child.
If you’re unable to get past the divorce perhaps you need help. You may need to go to counseling with a pastor, therapist, or some other specialist who deals with the ravages of divorce. Your goal should be to be to move on, have a fully functioning, well-rounded, and happy life. You deserve it and so do your children.
There are many books on the market that help people deal with divorce. You may want to read one of the following:
“Co-parenting With A Jerk” by Julie Ross and Judy Corcoran.
“Mom’s House, Dad’s House” by Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.
Written by: Tracy Taylor, CEO/Founder My Turn Your Turn, a co-parenting website designed to help parents and co-parents that share a child due to divorce or separation.
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